It is not common that somebody speaks abiertamente of its addiction to sex. All the addictions usually are taken privily. And in the hypothetical case that somebody was sent to the rotation in a conversation, it is probable that one faced interlocutors who would not reach to include/understand that he is being spoken of an addiction, and therefore, of a subject that repels of a very negative way in the life of a person. Equally probable it is that they took it lightly, when not sarcastically. Who and who less he is a little addict to sex more, it would think more than one.
All the addictions are injurious, but there are some more complex than others. In spite of the difficulties and the inner fight that entails, all understand that an alcoholic one can leave the alcohol, or a ludópata the game. Nevertheless a bulímico cannot stop eating, nor an addict one to sex doing without the same either completely. Technically yes; but it would be like journeying of an end to the other of the problem without happening through the solution.
To recognize the addiction sex
The Manual Statistical Diagnosis and of the Mental Upheavals, in its new edition (DSM V), picks up for the first time the addiction to sex, under its clinical denomination of upheaval of the hypersexuality. This manual of reference for psychiatry defines world-wide it as a compulsive obsessive upheaval. Suffer who it are incapable to control their thoughts neither their repetitive acts, something that or very knew or the affected ones, that take waiting for long time this inclusion.
In words of the eminent Red psychiatrist Marks: “Any type of obsession that interferes with in the capacity of the person to take a normal life, that harms to him in its personal and labor relations, is a pathology”.
The problem is not smaller. According to the numbers that handle the sexólogos, the addiction to sex affects a 6% of the population. Perhaps it is possible to be thought that the number is very not lifted, but considering that 6% are translated in 18 million people in the United States, near 3 in Spain, 2´5 in Argentina or 7 in Mexico, the problem does not seem so smaller.
When is exceeded the limit? In this point disinformation exists enough. A very active sexual life can take and for that reason not be considered addict. Where is the difference then? The person who takes an active sexual life is satisfied with itself, something that does not happen with the addict one. This one lacks control on its acts although its conduct causes negative feelings to him.
Addict, in agreement one it spends the time, it requires of majors stimuli to satiate his increasing necessity. As it happens to the addictions, the obtained calm is only momentary; immediately the emptiness, if it fits, with more force returns, being generated a autodestructivo cycle del that is not far from easy to leave.
The addict ones to sex are great consumers of pornography in all variants, resort compulsively to the masturbation as well as to continuous appointments of a single night, or with is known or by means of prostitution. When all these activities invade and annul other fields, the answer only can be one: the addiction is a fact.
Treatment of the addiction to sex
Like it happens with the addictions and type of conflicting situations yet, the first passage towards the sanación consists of acquiring conscience of which the problem is real and affects and interferes deeply in the daily activity.
Besides the recognition and of the will, that is important although nonsufficient, it is necessary to look for the support of the professionals and, mainly, the groups of aid who are based, in this case, in known the twelve adapted Alcoholic passages “anonymous” problematic the sexual one. To day of today there is a deficiency of specialized centers that take care of the addiction to sex, despite in Spain are “Sexólicos anonymous”, “A.S.A.A.” in Latin America, or “Sexaholics anonimous” in the United States.
Also the forums that can be in the network can be a first step to break silence and to find the support necessary to advance in the resolution of the problem.
To surpass the addiction to sex
A person who resorts of a compulsive way to the sex is somebody that she wrongly looks for to fill his solitude with companies and activities that end up generating a greater solitude. This existential emptiness cannot be overwhelmed with elements external, but internal. The ideology of the twelve steps looks for to unify philosophies and beliefs of all type to concentrate in what is called “being able superior” and that everyone interprets according to its own convictions. It can be identified with God or a power that arises from the interior and that shares and fortifies in the unit of the group. At heart it does not have major importance the belief in itself, but the force that from her spring, as well as the self-confidence that does possible to overcome those obstacles that before seemed unsalvable. The door of the hope always is there for whoever abrir it.